According to the National Domestic Violence Hotline, approximately 23% of LGBTQIA+ men and 50% of LGBTQIA+ women experience abuse from their intimate partners.
However, the abusive partner may also use tactics of power and control that reinforce complex societal factors and inequality, which may make it challenging for LGBTQIA+ individuals to seek help or leave the relationship. They might use discrimination, harmful stereotypes, or rejection to control.
- Legal definitions of domestic violence that exclude same-sex couples
- Dangers of “outing” oneself when seeking help and the risk of rejection and isolation from family, friends, and society
- The lack of, or survivors not knowing about, LGBTQIA+-specific or LGBTQIA+-friendly assistance resources
- Potential homophobia from staff of service providers or from non-LGBTQIA+ survivors of IPV and IPSA with whom they may interact
- Low levels of confidence in the sensitivity and effectiveness of law enforcement officials and courts for LGBTQIA+ individuals
You Deserve A Healthy Relationship!
Equality in Relationships
All healthy relationships are based in equality and respect. Relationships should provide you with a safe place to grow and develop as an individual self that complements each other’s lives. Let’s take a closer look at the characteristics below. Hover over each description, to get more information about the characteristic.
Respecting Physical Space
Sexual Consent & Respect
Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual Empowerment
Honesty, Accountability & Respect
Accepting responsibility for yourself, admitting when you are wrong, and communicating honestly and openly. Listening to your partner openly and without judgement, being emotionally understanding, and valuing one another’s opinions.
Trust & Support
Supporting a partner’s goals and respecting their right to their own feelings, friends, activities, and opinions. Being dependable, reliable, and keeping your word. Being open, engaging in only honest behaviors and respecting each other’s boundaries.
Negotiation & Shared Responsibility
Agreeing on a fair distribution of work, making family decisions together, seeking mutually agreeable resolution to conflicts, and being willing to compromise.
What Can I Do For Myself?
Abuse happens in all types of relationships. If you are being abused, it’s nothing to be ashamed of. There are some steps you can take to increase your safety and/or make leaving the abusive situation easier. If you need to talk to someone about it, help is available. Our 24-hour hotline number is 860.763.4542.